Wednesday, October 3, 2012

Them's Figh-en Words! Are you beating yourself up?

Negative self talk is so destructive!  A dear friend of mine described it like this, “Words” are still a very powerful and sometimes destructive force. Negative words are like unguided missiles…aiming to destroy, and if not stopped they will complete the mission! They are the tools of the devil…seeking to steal, kill, and destroy.”

Do you really know how powerful your words are?  When you say something to yourself, your brain receives it as truth.  If somebody called you dumb, fat, ugly, stupid, would you get upset?  It would be hurtful and could be depressing because it attacks your self worth.  Some of us would get really angry and might just have to do something about it!  In the south, you might hear, “Them’s figh-en words!”  

So why do we get ourselves upset and angry by saying the same things?  “I’m such an idiot.”   “I can’t believe I did that, I’m having a stupid moment.”  “Man, I hate the way I look.  God gave my sister the pretty genes.”  “I just wish I was never born!  I hate my life.”  We experience the same emotions regardless if somebody else says it to us or we say these things to ourselves.  Make an effort to stop beating yourself up and start visualizing what you want to be.  Let me tell you, you’ll have more motivation to do something about the changes you want, that’s for sure.

I shared in my last post that I am a small group leader for an Online Bible Study group. The book for these 6 weeks is titled, Unglued by Lysa Terkeurst.  I love the visual she gives of us being like a slab of marble.  God chisels away what we don’t need and artistically brings forth the beauty He sees. A beautiful sculpture made in His image.  With our negative self talk and negative belief of who we are, we stay trapped in that slab with all our raw emotions and never breaking free from it.  Will you choose today to let God do His work in you?  Will you let Him break away the labels you’ve placed on yourself and be set free?  John 8:36 “So if the Son has set you free, you are free indeed.

Remember this always, that the moment Jesus died on the cross, He established your worth FOREVER.  He believed YOU were worth dying for!  John 15:13  Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends.

I know that we discussed this topic in April in greater detail but I just felt I needed to share the spin that Lysa had.  It gave me such a great visual and blessed my heart so much, I felt you would be equally as blessed.  We will begin the topic of boundaries later in November when I finish the unglued study.  For now, I will be sharing from this book through the end of October. I hope you don’t mind the delay.  Love you all and look forward to seeing you back soon.


  1. Great message my friend! It's hard enough to fight against the lies of the enemy when it comes to negative words, but when we get on board by speaking them against ourselves, that's a double whammy. If we could really understand who we are in Christ, we would never entertain negative thoughts again. We would just nip it in the bud as soon as they pop in our minds. I'm not there yet, but that's where I want to be. Thanks for sharing a great message!

    1. I agree, Sherry. We just have to work at retraining our minds through God's Word and let Him do a work in us.